Depression & Addiction

Masturbation is a self-inflicted injury that if done more often could mess up a man’s life. Masturbation is capable of reducing a man to nothing. It can make you take no action and thus you find yourself incapable of handling minor challenges which are integral part of life. Once masturbation has gone beyond an occasional thing, it then becomes a deep down obsession, an addictive world that drags its inhabitants into the deep abyss of hell.

Once masturbation becomes addictive, and it is usually the case. The individual will always abhor the urge to want to release on any given opportunity. Someone who is addicted to masturbation can masturbate more than 5 times per day even when the penis is not erect.

Failure

Masturbation causes an individual to fail in almost every endeavour. It causes loss of memory and reduces concentration. Just because you can’t concentrate, you tend to mess up on almost everything. In fact, it affects one’s life in every ramification. People deeply addicted to masturbation tend to spend more time in bed each morning and they are known to be procrastinators.

Erectile Dysfunction

An individual’s sexual power is limited in supply. Sexual power is at its best in our early days of life; gets to its peak when we are 25 years old and may start diminishing some time in our 40s. So masturbation distorts this natural process and create erectile dysfunctions. It is only sad to find out that a young man who has everything going for him and just because he had indulged in excessive masturbation earlier in life, would later found out after marriage that he has loss his sexual power and just cannot function as a real man. This is disgraceful. There is almost nothing that could be done to restore his sexual power to what it should be. Nowadays, medications could boost ones sexual strength and cure one of erectile dysfunctions but that is just temporary. Even after he stops masturbating, it may take a long time for the natural sexual power to come back.

Marital Problem

Excessive masturbation affects ones behaviour negatively. It turns people that are not brilliant upstairs into geeks. It is suicidal for one to lose out in the world of showbiz and still be found wanting in terms of academics. A man that masturbates often cannot handle a relation. Even drugs to fix erectile dysfunctions cannot help keep one from being unsuccessful in relationships. Human relationships are full of challenges and our relationships are dependent on the way we manage those problems that nature throw at us. Someone who masturbates a lot lacks the resonance to deal and resolve relationship challenges.

While growing up in New Jersey with two fantastic pets — a lovely pit bull and a Scottish fold cat, I learned firsthand the power of loving and ignoring a woman. That teeny-weeny observation while playing with my cat, Roo, improved my chances of having it away with drop-dead gorgeous girls. In fact, it was so important to me in forming a relationship as steroid is to bodybuilders.

Roo was a sweet and adorable cat. Like all domestic cats, this one loves the human hands. However, what Roo didn’t like was someone who spends all their time playing with her. While I read a book, Roo would come round, curl herself and keep bodily contact with my feet. This lovely cat would remain so for an unusually longer time than when I was actually playing with her.

This principle changed my life. In high school, I got more women than pretty face Brad. So, how did I wind up with so many women? Wait a minute, I don’t even look as good as George Clooney.

First, I realized everybody has fear in them and it is natural for them to like someone who, at least, pretends not to be afraid. Cats like bravery and so do women. Cats detect fear in a living thing. Check out any close meet a human being has ever had with a lion without it charging. The idea is simple, if you are afraid, the lion will charge forward almost immediately. Ladies too perceive fear in men.

A woman could tell if a man is not man enough just by using one yardstick, bravery. They also look at the body language, and the general aura but it goes beyond all that a little bit. As we know, fear is almost unavoidable. Even the best Orators in the world do experience butterflies in their stomachs at times. Whether they succeed or not depends on how they handle fear.

Show a woman that you truly love her but give her reasons to doubt it. As she ponders over it, re-enact your love. This technique helps rekindle relationships. The resulting effect is the power of discontinuity. It is the same as saying that one doesn’t value what they have until it’s gone.

But hey we we’ve got to give people what they want (even if it doesn’t really matter how you start the conversation).

Here are my top 5 tips for approaching that nerve-inducing stunner in a very pretentious West End Bar:

1. What you say matters not a jot. It’s how you say it. Be slow and clear (think James Bond), maintain good eye contact and come in a little higher energy than the group. If they are sitting and having a quiet conversation you can be a little more energetic and if they are laughing uproariously then you have to be really high energy. The key is to be a compelling source of entertainment in the opening interaction.
2. Play to your strengths. If you are a loud and confident guy then go for the energised groups. If you are quiet and more reserved, then groups that are quieter could be a better option. Be dictated here by your mood- so, if you are normally quiet but you feel high energy in the moment, then go for the high energy girl.
3. Dress well. It’s frightening how guys handicap themselves by dressing badly. How can you expect to get the best women if you look rubbish? It’s possible but very unlikely. In terms of style we do have some articles (link) on this but generally have a look which stands out. So I am more city gent whereas Milton, for example is a bit edgier and cooler in the way he dresses. This article from our blog explain his in a little more detail.
4. OK OK I know you want to know what to say. Well In our book Get Girls I go through this in detail but I will summarise here: You can use a conversation starter which can be low risk (where can I find a great bar for dancing?) through to more sexual higher risk (do I look gay in this shirt? could you rate my arse out of ten?) Or an authentic opener. An authentic opener will be where you say what is on your mind. For example, you see a girl and think she looks cute tell her; you see a girl and don’t know what to say… go and tell her you wanted to chat her up but didn’t know what to say.
5. Know what you are going to say after then opener. Have some topics lined up and ready to go so, if the conversation does falter, you will have some pre-prepared topics to fall back on.

Happy approaching!

Red flags

Here we will discuss about the different relationship red flags that will warn you against the wrong woman. Here we will list some of the most common relationship warning signals that men ignore.

• Past relationships: although this rule might have its own share of exceptions, you should always keep a watch out for this one. If a woman has too many fling sin the past, which came to an abrupt end, it might mean that she has a problem being in a long-term relationship. When asked about her past relationships, if she starts telling you that all the other men were jerks, it is a clear sign that she is lying to you. When you think about it carefully, if all the men end up getting dumped by her, you might be awaiting a similar fate.
• Bad childhood: everyone has their fair share of fights with their parents at some time or the other, but if a woman has a particular deep-seated grudge against one of her parents, she will make it apparent to you. Staying away from such women will be a good idea for the sake of your own sanity. Childhood leaves a deep impact on our personality so it is very important to analyze.
• No girlfriends: usually women hang out with quite a few girlfriends, that is a good sign as these girlfriends help he resort out her emotional needs. A woman with no girlfriend and many male friends is a minefield, you would be better off not venturing into that territory.
• Emotional baggage: make sure you are not the rebound guy for her. If  a woman appears too easy and falls for you immediately after breaking up with her ex, this is a clear signal that she needs you to get over her ex. If you do not want to get hurt, stay away from such women as they will wreck up your life and scoot away as soon as her emotional needs are fulfilled.

The above mentioned points are just some of the red flags that you should watch out for while dating a person. The rules are not all inclusive and as you go ahead in life, perhaps you will coin a few rules of your own.

Signs to watch out:

It is not necessary that all of these signs will be necessarily visible in your partner but most of them will be pretty apparent if she is cheating.

• Loss in interest levels: she is no longer interested in your life; she acts as if she has the very exhaustive day and keeps acting that way for a long period of time, say about a month or so.  Women are very good at hiding their emotions but maintaining two full-fledged relationships cane be tasking on the brain and she might appear too strained to cater to your emotional and physical needs.
• Avoiding eye contact: if you suddenly act aggressive and ask her the reason for the strange behavior, an honest woman will look straight into your eyes and she might feel hurt as well, that a god sign. On the other hand, if she tries to shield herself by looking away , moving away from you, leaving the room, or tries to get intimate with you the obviously something is very wrong.
• Cell phone: you do not have to be a peeping tom, just take her phone away from her hands casually and wait for her reaction. A cheating wife or girlfriend will certainly try to get the phone away from you; this means he is trying to hide something from you.
• Conversation poppers: do you suddenly hear your spouse talking about some other person more frequently than ever? This can be a dangerous red flag. Women tend to think sub consciously about their lovers and they might pop up in her conversations from time to time.
• Sudden change in routine: a new relationship I sound to portray itself in a lot of new changes in the lifestyle of your partner. She might start working out more frequently to look her best. If it is an office romance then she might work late hours and come back late at night. A sudden change in routine with a lot of unexplained work hours can be sure indication of a romantic affair.

If you ever find out that, your wife or girlfriend is cheating on you, do not get mad look over the entire situation talk with her and consider giving the relationship a second shot if you want to. Otherwise, it is a better idea to walk away and find your soul mate rather than be in an unhappy relationship.

Steps to keep a relationship alive

It must be kept in mind that the steps mentioned below are applicable to both the partners and equal contribution is an absolute necessity.

• Listening: everybody needs someone to talk to, being a good listener is a very important part of a relationship. It is not that tough and it’s not easy, it falls somewhere in between, you will learn as you go. You need to be attentive to what your partner is saying, so that you can understand them better. If your girlfriend had a bad day at the office and she wants to talk about it, it is important not to cut her short while she is in the middle of her monologue.  Men love giving advice, but it is highly recommended that you keep the advice to yourself unless you are asked for it.
• Being apart of each other: no two people can be exactly alike, but if your partner has some passions in life, you should try and be part of that. At least you can encourage her while she is pursuing her hobbies. The same thing goes for the ladies too, a man also needs some encouragement from time to time, it will help if you join him during the baseball matches.
• Space: no one wants to be around their partners all the time, being over clingy and texting your girlfriend even on a girl’s night out is a strict no-no. True love blossoms only when you give each other some space to breathe. Everyone needs to have some quality time with their friends when they can catch up with their old acquaintances.
• Surprise your partner: after a few years, everyone thinks that they have figured out their partners, to keep the spark alive you need to prove your girlfriend wrong and sweep her off her feet. Take a nice cruise to the Bahamas and give her a grand time, make her remember the first few months when she fell in love with you. Rejuvenating the old spark can bring you closer and create a stronger bond.

If you are in love with someone, you are among the lucky few, don’t let this opportunity go past you and give it your hundred percent. Life is too short to hold on to regrets so clear off the fog of miscommunication and rejuvenate the romance once again.

It’s nothing but just a mental blockage that men create by themselves. This fear can be thrown away to make a move towards making a casual friend which could hopefully develop into a romantic relationship. Asking someone out is a hard move for a lot of people, as all men regardless of their age, good looks or confidence always fear rejection. It is always seemed that asking someone out or approaching someone by starting a conversation takes a little courage, hence if you are approaching someone then your way should be polite.

There are some common fears that all men have while approaching someone out, such as whether she is interested in me? Whether I m attractive to her or not? What if she is in a relationship already? What if she rejects me in front of everybody? Now, in order to get rid of all these useless thoughts, you first have to stop thinking what other people will think about you. Think how you feel for yourself and what makes you happy. Instead of feeling low and down in this kind of situation, you should enjoy every bit of it to the fullest. You should always feel good about yourself and it will help to boost your confidence and will provide a charming personality. The people with pleasant personality always attract others. People enjoy being around those who are fun loving and know how to make every moment of life count.

In order to start a conversation to a woman, first learn how to take lead in it. By focusing on the person in front of you, you will not get stage fright and feel shy. What you will be talking to person will create a background of direction to present attitudes and emotions against. If you are keeping the interest of the person, then you will be reacting with your emotions and attitudes toward whatever is being said.

It is not always hard to move ahead and just say hello, if you know how to move. But if you are talking to someone whom you want to get attracted to, then of course it’s harder. Most men think that in order to start a conversation with someone, you have to say something very intelligent which is just a wrong idea. First, learn how to start with casual and relaxed conversations which will possiblly lead to the next level.

Girls are the most beautiful creation of the Almighty in this world ever. When a girl loves someone, she can love the person like anything and when she starts hating a person, she can go to the extreme condition. As solid and patient as our earth, girls can be a protector, a healer a creator and even turn to be a destroyer. Proposing a girl may look difficult but not impossible. So, if you are sailing in a boat unaware of the way to move, then knowing some essential tips will help you in this regard.

As every individual is different from each other, so their liking and disliking will also differ. It’s not necessary that every girl will like one typical way of proposing. In order to propose your girl which makes her feel happy and for getting a YES, you have to do a little home work. First try to understand what kind of nature she has, what she likes and what she doesn’t like, whether she is shy or introvert, whether she is adventurous or get scared of things easily. It will help you choose the best way to propose her that will make her feel special.

Though not every girl has same kind of likings, but flowers are favorites of all girls. If your girl is introvert and shy in nature, then proposing her where you are alone in some beautiful place would be a great decision. But if she is adventurous and fun loving then, taking her to a place where she enjoys the most and speaking out your heart will be a good way.

Moreover, gesture plays an important role in proposing a girl that comes into notice very soon. While she is around you, show your gentle, protective and emotional dependence nature and mean it too. Girls fall in love with guys who have these qualities and there will be no place for rejection when you will propose her.

Girls always want a guy in their life who accepts them the way they are and in fact appreciate them for being like that. Instead of being diplomatic tell her what you like about her and what makes you fall in love with her only. Girls are very soft hearted and emotional, they look for love and care from their man. You can take your girl to the place where you have first met with each other, as these places have a special moment attached to it that will give less chance to her for refusing your proposal. One more thing, never force your girl to say YES, as it may turn the whole process into an ugly one.

First, start talking to her about the game. Now you must be thinking how would you start talking about the game in which she has no interest? Start your conversation with something she likes the most, such as a TV show and ask her why she likes it so much. Let her speak for a while and then you tell her about your likings about this particular game and request her to sit for a little time though she doesn’t like it, as you like her company. This will make her feel special and she will be agreed to sit with you.

While the match is going to start, just before sometime explain her some basics of the game, so that she can understand the game a little. Without knowing anything about the game, she won’t be having any interest in that game. Try to explain her in between the game what’s going on actually in it, it will help her to build interest in the game. Once she gets a little interest in the game, she will watch the complete game. As she is new to the game, she might ask you a lot of question about it, but don’t get annoyed of it. It proves that gradually she is building interest in your favorite game and wants to know more about it.

Make this moment a special one for your love by pampering her during the match. It will make her feel that watching this match the best thing happened to her and thus, when next time you will ask her for your favorite match, she won’t say no.

Usually, women like gifts and especially if they are cloths or accessories. Next time when you go for shopping together, get her something cute and sweet related to your favorite game or team. It will make her happy and she will gradually start liking your favorite game. However, no can guarantee about the behavior of a woman and her liking exactly, but trying for it is definitely not a bad idea. By doing this, you will not only get her attention on you but also can make her love whatever you like. Women like attention and appreciation, so if are able to provide them these all, you will definitely make them happy and thus, they will do the things you like, to make you happy.


1.Do not initiate any conversation online from your end. Let the guy approach you. Often girls or women who approach guys online are considered to be available and are not taken seriously.

2.There can be many situations in which you might not like the attitude or character of a certain person online in the chat room. Block him immediately. There is no need to entertain unwanted people.

3.In case there is an option to post a photograph then opt for the best picture you have of yourself. Never post a celebrity’s picture. It does not look nice.

4.In case there is any guy interested in you and approaches you through instant message or email then there is no need to reply immediately. Again try and show that you are not waiting for some guy.

5.In case you are interested in a guy who has approached you via e mail then do not reply immediately. Wait for at least two days before replying to that mail. If he is really interested in you, he will wait for your reply.

6.It is highly advisable not to share your real demographic details, name, telephone numbers in first go.

7.Keep a separate e mail address for such things. Never use your original personal e mail id for online dating.

8.Never lie about anything related to your appearance, size or locality. It is better to avoid subjects which you do not want to discuss rather than lying about them. You never know if your conversation gets to the next level.

9.Everything should be slow and gradual in case of online dating. Do not jump to the conclusions about a guy you met in a chat room. Take your own time before you decide to meet him in person.

Online dating is pretty popular amongst all segments of ages across globe. There are positive side to it and negative as well. It is always better to take prevention rather than cure. So, be cautious while you flirt with men online. Disclosing a lot of information to an unknown man can be dangerous hence it should always be kept in mind that the online dating process is very slow ad needs to be treated in a slow manner.