She attended one of those all-girls boarding schools were little girls experiment with one another. According to her, it was fun at first but she later detested seeing other girls in the school inserting three, four, and five fingers into each other.

Fast forward to adulthood, she is a college graduate now but haven’t had sex with a man before. In fact, her hymen is still intact. Not long ago, she told me how she had finally made up her mind to start having sex. I wanted to do it there and then but she couldn’t withstand pain. So what should a brother do?

If I don’t do it, she might get someone else to do it, so I decided to come up with quite a different method, though slow, but an effective way of deflowering a girl with low pain threshold. I spread the operation over a week.

The very first day, we were just playing around the clitoris with a sexual lubricant. You can use Vaseline. I stimulated her and gave her a sense of what she has actually been missing. I wasn’t in a rush to insert my ‘’man-business’’ but I took it easy and dedicated the first day just for her and her alone.

The second day was a little bit different. After going out and coming back to the apartment and watching some pornographic film that I had hired the day before, we went straight into the bedroom. I repeated what I did the day before. I gave her fun and at the tail end of the game, it was time to use my penis to stimulate the outer part of her virginal. The goal here was to make her accustomed to having my dick around her private part.

The third day, I tried to insert a well-lubricated finger into her. It was a gradual process. The virginal was well lubricated and I wasn’t looking for a deep penetration at first—just wanted to make her come. I did it for quite a while and just as she was about to come I pushed the finger deep inside her vaginal. She could feel the pain. She had some slight bruises down there and so I stopped for the day.

On the fourth day, I inserted one finger and just when she was very excited, I gently slipped a second finger into her and guided her to orgasm. Notice that we have succeeded in having two fingers into her. I tried again with three fingers: first inserting two fingers and then gently with the third one.

The fifth day into the operation was a payback day. This was the time I inserted my penis after using my three fingers for a while until she was very excited.

There you go the lowdown on how I deflower a girl who had a low pain threshold.

Depression & Addiction

Masturbation is a self-inflicted injury that if done more often could mess up a man’s life. Masturbation is capable of reducing a man to nothing. It can make you take no action and thus you find yourself incapable of handling minor challenges which are integral part of life. Once masturbation has gone beyond an occasional thing, it then becomes a deep down obsession, an addictive world that drags its inhabitants into the deep abyss of hell.

Once masturbation becomes addictive, and it is usually the case. The individual will always abhor the urge to want to release on any given opportunity. Someone who is addicted to masturbation can masturbate more than 5 times per day even when the penis is not erect.

Failure

Masturbation causes an individual to fail in almost every endeavour. It causes loss of memory and reduces concentration. Just because you can’t concentrate, you tend to mess up on almost everything. In fact, it affects one’s life in every ramification. People deeply addicted to masturbation tend to spend more time in bed each morning and they are known to be procrastinators.

Erectile Dysfunction

An individual’s sexual power is limited in supply. Sexual power is at its best in our early days of life; gets to its peak when we are 25 years old and may start diminishing some time in our 40s. So masturbation distorts this natural process and create erectile dysfunctions. It is only sad to find out that a young man who has everything going for him and just because he had indulged in excessive masturbation earlier in life, would later found out after marriage that he has loss his sexual power and just cannot function as a real man. This is disgraceful. There is almost nothing that could be done to restore his sexual power to what it should be. Nowadays, medications could boost ones sexual strength and cure one of erectile dysfunctions but that is just temporary. Even after he stops masturbating, it may take a long time for the natural sexual power to come back.

Marital Problem

Excessive masturbation affects ones behaviour negatively. It turns people that are not brilliant upstairs into geeks. It is suicidal for one to lose out in the world of showbiz and still be found wanting in terms of academics. A man that masturbates often cannot handle a relation. Even drugs to fix erectile dysfunctions cannot help keep one from being unsuccessful in relationships. Human relationships are full of challenges and our relationships are dependent on the way we manage those problems that nature throw at us. Someone who masturbates a lot lacks the resonance to deal and resolve relationship challenges.

I worshipped the sand under her feet but she would rather prefer I became a Catholic priest. As I was scratching my heard in search for that Jimmy from the bottle formula, it turns out that on the summer of 2009 I got a flash of genius. Come on, women like the ignoring game.

So how did I use this to my favour?

First, I stopped asking her out. Whenever her call is coming through my mobile cellular, I’d give it some time before I pick the call and when I start talking with her, I’d just jut in a lie about a girlfriend who came round to ask for my input on her upcoming birthday party. A minute into the conversation, I’d place the phone on the table, without dropping the call, and go to sleep.

Women hate this, but the following day I’d show up with a flower and told her how sorry I was. At this stage, I was only trying to be a good friend not a lover and thus she started viewing me as a man who is hard to get. When she finally agreed to go out with me, the next big challenge pops up. How do I see the inside of her jeans?

I left everything funny and strictly platonic until we landed at her apartment. Once inside we started kissing and touching but she didn’t want us to go down to business. She promise next time but I wanted it there and then. After some foreplay that wasn’t helping my man business, I decided to use the ultimate technique.

Gently, I moved away from the couch, turned on the TV, laid flat on my back with my hands behind my head. I wasn’t angry but kept starring at the roof like the good God is communicated with me. She started feeling uncomfortable and asking tons of questions, which I answered reluctantly. Then the time I was waiting for finally arrived; she crawled up to me like a Siberian Tiger, gave me some soft touch with her lips and the rest, I’d say, was fornication.

There are chances that you might have already enjoyed each other carnally, but you can still put up the efforts to create that kind of anticipation situation which might be absent in everyday sex life just to spice up this special night. A couple can also practice banning up all the sexual contacts just some days prior to wedding so as to increase the desire for each other which may build up by the time of wedding night. It is good to hold out this feeling for twice as long as is possible which can be calculated on the time required to get frisky usually. Banning a week long sex for those accustomed to having sex a few times a week can be sufficient and in case of those who have sex only once a week, they may practice the ban for as long as a month or so before saying “I do”. To increase the appetite, it is good to have a “no nudity” condition in each other’s presence. This can be laid as an agreement as well.

Live independently

If the case is such that both of you are living together before wedding, it is good to spend the time before wedding in some other locations other than that home. It is always advisable to be confined to unfamiliar locations where one may stay in a hotel room for a night or so. It is advisable to have the first night action in some honeymoon suite rather than that location where you had sex frequently before marriage. This idea makes the couple look different and spice up the sexual feelings in one another.

Have sex early

Any wedding event which may be simply done as a casual event or as a festival is sure to leave a couple quite exhausted at the end of the event which may diminish the urge to have sex. As a tradition, the concept of having sex starts only after the reception which may then leave a couple alone to enjoy one another. If you have already indulged in sexual activity before marriage, then you may think about a different approach in this case. It is not advisable to wait till the reception has been concluded or till the entire process is done. You may sneak away during the course of reception to be left alone with your partner. Try to make things in such a way that the attendants of the reception also do not suspect something on your absence with your partner. Perhaps the maid of honor could be intimidated about the idea to cover you.

It is quite common to see a blushing bride dressed elaborately with a difficult to get into gown on the occasion of a wedding night. It is a case that she may require the help of atleast two bridesmaids to hold it up when entering a bathroom. It is a challenge indeed with such a dress during sex. You could help her undress as a part of the foreplay than letting her do so herself. You need to enjoy the act rather than getting frustrated with the complexity of the dress. This would surely become a memorable day.

Get her a costume

The idea behind getting her a new costume is to make her put it on occasionally and move around looking like a goddess. You need to do some research on this and could well benefit more than you think if you do so properly. You should be careful in choosing the costumes from an internet site. They may very well be unfitting on your girlfriend’s body. What may be right for a lingerie model in the pictures may not be suitable for her. Try to arrive at the sizes from her existing outfits. You may as well ask someone reliable about the right sizes for her body too. It is important that you do some amount of homework with her clothing tags and get her a perfect costume.

There are several outfits quite prominent in the market. They include old risqué clichés for nurses, maids, corsets and other dominatrix styles. You may as well choose a stylish and sexy outfit of these that may well fit on your mate’s body. You may try out suspenders and corsets which hide her body to some extent and still make her look sexy.

Give her a erotic challenge

If your mate is really a lover of challenge, give her a competitive streak that may work well for you by including certain erotic dares including stripping, sexy dancing and exhibiting shamelessly.

She would just love that act and find it thrilling to break all the boundaries. This is sure to excite you too. Such acts may be good enough to be stored in mind for future fantasy use. They may also include some acts which would deliver laughs. Sexual games or antics spice up a sex life and can include fun as well.

Give a teasing to her

It is a well known thought among women that men generally initiate the activity of sex. As such women believe that there is no need for them to initiate a session of sex as men are more willing all the time to do so. They also think that whenever they wish to they can get men indulging in sexual acts with them. Men can tease a woman on such matters by holding on the thought for some time and make her take up the task of initiating the activity. This can bring out her wilder side.

It is the psychology that matters and can be well established with reverse plotting. You can tease her by touching her occasionally and not going further ahead in the act. Give her some sexy love letters or emails and also gifts filled with the aspect of eroticism. You can also bring out the wilder side in her by speaking out some sensual words in her ear telling her some acts from her which you would like to experience. But all the time it is important that you exercise self control and don’t be dragged in being the front runner. This is sure to give good results.

Taking commands

You can make her match you in the acts of sex by being bold. Take up any dirty command she issues to you and be bold to enact it so that she likes to see it being done. Taking up dirty commands is indeed an activity that can bring up her erotic side. She would most certainly like it and command the same back to you as well.

This would lead from one event to another before getting into that lovely act. She would command you and tell you what she loves to being done by you.

Carry a camera

Cameras can be quite risky but are also good in case of acts of eroticism. They can be good sources for supplying material meant for fantasy activities in the future. It is the concept of trust that rules here. Until and unless it is made clear to the mate that the usage is only for personal purposes, their usage might become a disaster in the circumstance.

You can watch the activities you have done with her and this can be fun because you might not had the chance to watch yourself doing those things. She might also have missed some of the acts done by you in those lovely moments. You may let her know how beautiful she looks from behind and how lovely the act of her being on top of you could be through a camera.

Let her loose

It is seen that women are very shy after behaving erotically. They feel as if they have committed a crime. It is easy for any woman to overcome these thoughts easily. It is a gift to be like a sexual goddess which is not available to most women. She should be given that freedom and comfort and should be ascertained of the safety to bring out the erotic side in her. Never laugh at her acts but compliment her for whatever she does. There is no harm in exaggerating positively whatever acts she has performed. Never let her think as if she is doing something wrong. It is very difficult to drive women into inhibitions and perform filthy acts. But on the other side it is also easy to do so. All that matters is the situation. You may do something raunchy to her on some occasions and watch out for that incredible outcome of the act from her side. You need to be always alert about the boundaries concerning you and her. If the things are such that they start growing uncomfortable it is better to stop the act. Communicating with each other on likes and dislikes of both of them is a good way to increase the much needed boost in your sex life. This also brings out the erotic side in your lady.

She would say that her boyfriend never kissed her during love making and rarely goes down her. Most of the time, he would be finished before her and that’s the most terrible thing.

It is quite certain that men too have their own wish list like that of a woman and it is important that women too understand this. This is one of the most important things to be remembered in a sex session.

My reply for her was that she could try to pick up the thoughts of her boyfriend perhaps telepathically which intensified our conversation in this direction.

Women always blame men for being too bad in sex in the bed, but it is interesting to note that there may be problem from her side as well which she would never realize. This is one of the frequent complaints aired out by many girlfriends, colleagues and also strangers or roommates which I think creates a big list of fantasies which every woman would like to have at that very moment and perhaps all the men in the world can be given a copy of it.

Here are some of those points I put forward so that every man can take a cue from it and increase their chances of having a better sex life with their partners.

Giving full focus to her

This may look more like a sex tip rather than a lustful fantasy. Almost every woman wishes to have her man focus on her complete body. Every woman wishes her man to kiss and lick each and every inch of her body including vagina. She would love to have that sensation derived from kissing elsewhere on her body too.

It is not a bad idea at all to kiss her inner thigh or taking some time in concentrating on some other area of her body. She is sure to do the same thing to you as well.

Having more oral sex

Many woman wish to have longer and more oral sex not to mention, the importance of vocal here. Almost every woman wishes to direct her partner to lick her up at every possible spot on her body and give out that much needed moaning noise to indicate that the job is well done or is being done perfectly. Some women also drive down to her man and perform the same on him with an idea that he would do the same to her. They actually are looking for the directions. Woman love to hear noises of pleasure when doing the sex job for their man, which assures them of their good job.

It should be understood from this act of a woman what she really wants on the bed. They would love to have you do all the work with your tongue roaming on their body. They would love to have you use your fingers, tongue and mouth all over their body and penetrate them with your penis whenever necessary for a little while and get back to the mouth job again.

Give her a different treatment

Woman fantasies are just not catchable. A typical woman would love a different treatment from her man on the bed. It is quite clear from several conversations on sex with woman, how they wish to be treated, woman have always voted to be treated like prostitutes to have raunchy and steamy sex with their partners. They wish to have a steamy conversation on sex with their male partners when the session is on. Woman love to be ravished like animals by men and be treated like animals in bed.

There are several women out there who wish to be slutty in the bedroom and could not describe it due to lack of words. Their only fear is getting lesser respect if they show out their thoughts on sex to their men. Most women also fear that if they show out their thoughts then they would be treated in the same fashion out of bedroom as well.

Use flowery talk

Many woman love the feeling of being played on their bodies with mouth and fingers. They also love a different type of talk in the bedrooms which was mentioned as dirty talk by most of them. They wish their partners to be nasty in the bedroom and use some kind of colorful language describing them so that they get along with the partners in sex. Much of the talk is not to be outspoken and can be easily censored but one should picture and imagine such a situation and I believe it is not so difficult as well.

Getting more aggressive in sex

Women love to describe their partners as aggressive sex partners. They wish their partners to tie them up, spank them and also have their hair pulled and treat them with all kinds of cruelties in bed. Women simply love to have aggressive sex with their male partners.

It does not mean that you should be so cruel to your partner out of bedroom. Every lady wishes to have aggressive partner in bed to have a memorable sex with him. A little roughing up in the bed is sure to work wonders. Woman only want to see aggressiveness in their men based on the occasion and not at all circumstances.

It should be noted that sex is the most major aspect in this relationship and could lead to different feelings and also regret as well. if your intention is to keep the relationship at the friendship level, and if she wishes to have more, then that would surely put you in dilemma.

Here are some ways using which you could utilize it for some days, weeks and months following up that transition from friend to lover and keep up your friendship as strong as before.

Activity the morning after sex

On the morning to the day next when you had sex with your friend, if it turns out to be a weekday, you can simply breakout to work as both need to do it. It is a good idea to shoot out a mail to your friend from the office making fun of the events that took place a day before. It is highly advisable to immediately change the topic. It is better to acknowledge the occurrence of this event but at the same should not be visited for longer time to avoid any unusual feeling about it in the friend’s mind. Never take up any kind of dirty talk related to her body and never use any pet names as well. it is better to give back the respect to her. Never drag on the matter for long which would make her uncomfortable.

It is happens to be a weekend, it would be trickier to handle the situation. It is important not to prolong the matter to afternoon, rather change up the topic. It is also important not to avoid her by giving out excuses as it is quite certain that she knows more about you. It can be safe to mention certain things where there is no chance for a excuse like you can say that you wish to visit a gym to work out or the office to finish of some work or also visiting the parents. It is important to plan that week in such a way that you don’t create any uncomfortable environment to her. You could probably plan something as usual with her.

The next week after sex

If a week has passed and you are now in the second week after that act, make it a point to remain friends with her by not sleeping together. An act done once can be a mistake but doing the same mistake again and again may completely change the name of the relationship. Never think sexually about you girlfriend so as to avoid tempting thoughts. Just return back to friendship and to normal activities as you always do. Don’t avoid any kind of activities that you used to routinely perform before that act of sex with your friend. It is important not to take up any task that can have a different meaning so as to spoil the relation.. always introduce your friend to the strangers as a good friend and never spill out any information related to that night. Stop imagining her in that position and never make jokes about her body or about her behavior on bed.

After some months

It is important to make it a point to talk about other women after several days of that act. Even if there is no woman as such, you can create one to your friend and say something about that unrealistic lady and some fictional thoughts that that unrealistic lady has for you. You can also enquire your friend about any guy she might have spotted. Look out for her reaction at such instances. If she gives a hint to move forward with that new woman, it is understood that she is clear of that thoughts from that night.

Never disappear away from her. This could lead to bad feelings in her. This would also bring up the thoughts associated with that night in her mind. You can speak about that night to her. It is possible that she may also be as uninterested as you are in having a relationship. She might as well done the deed in a quick thought. You can tell her how you feel in a honest way.

After several weeks and months on this happening, if she still likes to call you her boyfriend and doesn’t understand that you are no longer interested in a relationship, then this is obviously a bad news. In such circumstances it is important to keep cool. This circumstance proclaims a death of the friendship. It is your guilty too for that act. You can back away in such cases and ignore her for a while. Drop in a mail or message after some days to assess the situation. Chances are that she might have come back to senses taking you as friend in her thoughts. There are other chances as well. In any case you need to be prepared for the worst.

It is highly recommended to encourage your female partner to talk about her wants so as to have a better sex life and this is proven scientifically too. Here are some of the tips that you can use to have a good sex life with your partner.

Woman love period sex

This is a general truth about woman but still there are some rules in this act. Partners in sex need to be clean and showered before this act of sex. A woman is bound to have a temporary vaginal dryness especially if your woman uses tampons. There are chances that you might experience a bit uncomfortable friction if she has used tampons just before sex. In such cases a lube would be more helpful. Though woman warm up quite quickly for sex, a dry sex could be painful to her and it is not advisable to straightly drive into her in such circumstances. In such cases, a period sex has more advantages derived from the hormones but there are some obstacles in this as well. Don’t ever drive straight into that of your woman until and unless you have some kind of vampire desires or fantasies as she is sure to knock you out of the way.

Woman never like never ending sex

There is no meaning in driving a never ending session. No woman would ever love such kind of love making session. A man should not feel great of a longer holding capability. There are love machines, but they are also made of rubber and plastic. But humans are not machines and that’s exactly a woman wants from you. Having an orgasm is always loved by a woman, but having two is sure a bonus for you. This of course does not require lengthy efforts to achieve an orgasm. Every woman has a limit and it should be understood from her feelings. Let her relax in your arms and then enjoy the smell of her hair as she relaxes. She will make you know if she wants more.

Woman don’t love fingering at times

Men should understand the structure of a vagina so that they can derive the maximum pleasure out of it and also induce considerable influence of sex on the woman. A vaginal entrance has more number of nerve endings that any region deep into it.  Make use of this knowledge for a lovely sex session. The main objective is to drive her crazy, which requires sticking to these zones. Never move away from these zones, which form the outside regions of vagina, just inside of it and of course the G-spot. One should not be harsh in this activity. It demands gentleness. A woman would show her wish for a deeper penetration by pushing herself onto you. It could be uncomfortable for her to have a hand or half of it jamming her entrance point. It is always better to ask her if she requires more fingers. It is advisable to have clean fingers that have trimmed fingernails.

Explore new things

Woman love exploring newer things and would never intimate the same to their partners of sex. There are certain things that women are afraid of and those may include anal sex, anal fingering, bondage, fisting, sex in the outdoors and also role playing. There is nothing so difficult or hardcore associated with these activities.  Every normal man and woman does this and get lovely results out of it. To make things easier, you may swap out a sexual to do list with her and understand what she would love to try. Make this a mutual activity and you would sure to come out with newer ideas in having sex and enhance your sexual life with your partner.

Women are horny in the morning

Generally morning times or those times when it is important to wake up can be good periods for having a lovely and memorable sex with your woman. Just try to push your erected sex organ between her thighs such that it brushes her vaginal lips. Now just keep rubbing her lovely vaginal lips with your erected organ and you would see that within short periods of time she would open it up and let you in. this is to make her aroused from a refreshing sound sleep before 8 am in the morning. Even having a oral sex can work out better, but it is highly enjoyable with a thigh trick as explained before. Use saliva or any other lubricating agent to moisten the penis before the act which would enhance the sexual arousement in your woman. A woman would feel so good to have her man inside her just after a good sleep. This activity of a morning sex needs to be done only if your partner of sex is keen in doing so as not all would love to have it. There are some tips that can be effectively used to encourage your female partner in having morning sex with you.

Every woman is different and so are her likes and dislikes and also her ideas of having sex with her partner. It is important to understand these ideas from her through ways of playing games with her like those of board games that have the ability to put out these ideas from one’s mind. They are also good to increase communication with your partner and thus help understand the ideas better. It should be understood that a good and better sex can only be achieved if things are put forward by both the partners openly and honestly.

Mix It Up

“I hate it when a guy does the same old thing every time you hit the sack,” says Melanie.  “I like a guy to mix it up a little.  You know, sometimes it is sweet and romantic and other times he pounds you like a little whore.”

Of course, if we are talking about a one-nighter here, you don’t have to worry about mixing it up from time to time.  Just find what you are good at and show off the moves to your one night conquest.  If you are in a long-term relationship, on the other hand, try to avoid getting in a rut.

Guys tend to do the same thing every time they get between the sheets.  After all, you have found what works for you and it gets you off, so why make a change?  Unfortunately, the same isn’t true with women.  Most women I have talked to want you to change it up a little rather than sticking to the same old routine.  This doesn’t mean you need to hang from the chandeliers or break out with a ball gag each time you hook up, but try to vary the mood and the action in order to keep your girl interested.

Warm Her Up

If you are a bad lover, you will be getting off right at about the time your girl is ready to get going.  Treat your woman like that old classic car you love so much – don’t hop in, turn the key and hit the gas.  Rather, start her up, give her a rub down and check her gauges to make sure she is ready to go.

Many guys dread the thought of having to engage in foreplay.  After all, you don’t need time to get warmed up.  A couple touches in a few key places and you’re ready to go.  With women, however, you need to take a little more time to get her ready.  This doesn’t mean you have to munch her all night long before you can finally slip it to her.  But, try kissing her for awhile and rubbing on the outside of her panties before you slip a finger inside and primer her engine.  You will know she is ready when she starts to get moist and her clitoris starts to become engorged.

Spend Some Time with the Little Man in the Boat

Speaking of the clitoris, be certain to give the little fella some of your attention.  The reality is that many women can’t get off without having a certain amount of clitoral stimulation.  Remember that girl in the naughty school girl outfit?  A girl in a skirt offers great opportunities for a little clit action before going in.  Slip your hand up beneath her skirt and rub her clit through her panties in a circular fashion, starting off nice and slow and then working your way up to a higher speed while increasing the pressure.  By the time you are ready to slip those panties off, they will be soaking wet and she will be ready to jump your bones.

Work the Titties

“I hate it when guys jump right in and start mauling all over my breasts,” complains Melissa.  “I mean, I’m into boob action, but there is a right time and a wrong time, you know?”

No, I don’t know.  But, when I asked Melissa and the other girls I talked to about where things stand with the boobs, I found that playing with those lovely lumps is something you should work your way into.  In other words, if you start sucking and nibbling on her nipples before she has been heated up, it may not be a turn on at all.  In fact, some women find it to be a turn off.  “It’s too much like breastfeeding – it hurts,” complained one woman.

When you get her motor revving before you move in for the tits, on the other hand, something magical happens.  For some reason, most of the women I talked to said that playing with their tits after they have been warmed up is a real turn on.  Some even said sucking on their tits is one way to push them over the pleasure plateau – but only if it is done after they are good and worked up.

So, although you may be anxious to just grab that little hottie at the bar and have your way with it, remember that the ladies talk to each other and that a shitty role in the hay may get you blackballed on many lists.  Take your time and make sure you leave her something to remember you by – even if you never plan on hooking up with the same girl twice.