Crystal was right in his character in Harry met sally when he said that women cant be friends with men as there is always the part of sex that comes into play between them. It can be said that friendships with a female started just because you were attracted towards them to strike up a conversation. When it became clean that there is no possibility of having a romantic relationship, that one thing could turn out to be platonic. It can be seen that sometimes friends also indulge in the same activities as are taken up by lovers like those of late night phone calls, dinner dates and even sex.

It should be noted that sex is the most major aspect in this relationship and could lead to different feelings and also regret as well. if your intention is to keep the relationship at the friendship level, and if she wishes to have more, then that would surely put you in dilemma.

Here are some ways using which you could utilize it for some days, weeks and months following up that transition from friend to lover and keep up your friendship as strong as before.

Activity the morning after sex

On the morning to the day next when you had sex with your friend, if it turns out to be a weekday, you can simply breakout to work as both need to do it. It is a good idea to shoot out a mail to your friend from the office making fun of the events that took place a day before. It is highly advisable to immediately change the topic. It is better to acknowledge the occurrence of this event but at the same should not be visited for longer time to avoid any unusual feeling about it in the friend’s mind. Never take up any kind of dirty talk related to her body and never use any pet names as well. it is better to give back the respect to her. Never drag on the matter for long which would make her uncomfortable.

It is happens to be a weekend, it would be trickier to handle the situation. It is important not to prolong the matter to afternoon, rather change up the topic. It is also important not to avoid her by giving out excuses as it is quite certain that she knows more about you. It can be safe to mention certain things where there is no chance for a excuse like you can say that you wish to visit a gym to work out or the office to finish of some work or also visiting the parents. It is important to plan that week in such a way that you don’t create any uncomfortable environment to her. You could probably plan something as usual with her.

The next week after sex

If a week has passed and you are now in the second week after that act, make it a point to remain friends with her by not sleeping together. An act done once can be a mistake but doing the same mistake again and again may completely change the name of the relationship. Never think sexually about you girlfriend so as to avoid tempting thoughts. Just return back to friendship and to normal activities as you always do. Don’t avoid any kind of activities that you used to routinely perform before that act of sex with your friend. It is important not to take up any task that can have a different meaning so as to spoil the relation.. always introduce your friend to the strangers as a good friend and never spill out any information related to that night. Stop imagining her in that position and never make jokes about her body or about her behavior on bed.

After some months

It is important to make it a point to talk about other women after several days of that act. Even if there is no woman as such, you can create one to your friend and say something about that unrealistic lady and some fictional thoughts that that unrealistic lady has for you. You can also enquire your friend about any guy she might have spotted. Look out for her reaction at such instances. If she gives a hint to move forward with that new woman, it is understood that she is clear of that thoughts from that night.

Never disappear away from her. This could lead to bad feelings in her. This would also bring up the thoughts associated with that night in her mind. You can speak about that night to her. It is possible that she may also be as uninterested as you are in having a relationship. She might as well done the deed in a quick thought. You can tell her how you feel in a honest way.

After several weeks and months on this happening, if she still likes to call you her boyfriend and doesn’t understand that you are no longer interested in a relationship, then this is obviously a bad news. In such circumstances it is important to keep cool. This circumstance proclaims a death of the friendship. It is your guilty too for that act. You can back away in such cases and ignore her for a while. Drop in a mail or message after some days to assess the situation. Chances are that she might have come back to senses taking you as friend in her thoughts. There are other chances as well. In any case you need to be prepared for the worst.